Thoughts for the day

Well, actually i intended to go on a hiatus because school started and there is like a lot of work piling up. However, really thank God that I get to do most of my work. Currently really feeling quite tired and find it hard to study and I have a lot of thoughts in my head so I might as well post something and take it as a rest... A rest for my brain.

Really thank God that I managed to cope with the readings etc. It wasn't easy and the teachers have high expectations, but I think I managed to cope with it somewhat. QT was also quite fruitful. God challenged me in a lot of areas and I hope to live it out. Well, wasn't regular in terms of prayer for the CYYAM. Pray that I can be more regular with it because I feel that it is really one of the best way to show concern for our brothers and sisters.

Ahhhh..... need to wake up so early on Sunday for the fund raising thing.... haha.... feeling super tired.... oh wells, pray that I will have the strength and stamina to help out.

Oh wells, the toughest day of the week is over..... Today has been rather crazy but thank God for friends, haha, make life easier for me:D

Grin, seem like i am writing in rather incoherent sentences....

Today saw a sms on the talk for girls for the bgr... This actually triggered my memory about a recent chat with a brother-in-Christ about BGR. Well, we were talking about random things before we somehow started chatting about BGR... I still have a pretty good idea of the conversation. One thing that particularly struck me was the part when I said I was still 21..... kkk.... going 22. I said that being 21-22 is still young... He immediately pointed out that actually it's not young anymore... He got a point there. 21-22 isn't exactly young buuuuuuutttt, neither is it exactly old. Lets not talk about the olden times where people get married at 14-18...may be 23 at most. 21-22 is about the time where we should start taking BGR stuff more seriously... Not that it isn't good to think earlier than that, just that it is about time that we should think much much deeper about such stuff.... Shouldn't wait till >27 to start thinking about it. Well, it isn't late, but then you don't have a good idea of what you are looking for when you are from our age onwards.

So what is my thoughts about all this?

The bible actually encourage marriage in many parts of it. Genesis 2 stated the first marriage and why it is good. (Uncle James will have a wonderful bible talk about it... bet everyone is looking forward to it). Paul in his many letters also said that it is good for marriage, esp those who are constantly tempted by (greek:porniea) fornication. Unless one has a gift from God to stay single, then it is good to marry. Well, either ways it is a gift from God. Those who are single shouldn't envy those who are married. If you are not meant to be single, God will provide. If you are meant to be, thank God for you will be able to serve God without certain distractions that couples and family will face. If you are meant to be married or already married, thank God that you have a helper or a leader to help the family grow physically and more importantly (and hopefully) spiritually.

Well, been evaluating myself... I don't think I am meant to be single. Can't be certain for sure, but very likely. Therefore, this means that i have to put more thought into BGR. (man, have to keep reminding myself that it is BGR and not BGS {a uni mod})1. I have to think what are the things that I am looking for in my future partner. 2. What are the stuff that I have to improve upon so that I can lead my future family into a Godly life. 3. What is my goal in my serving ( some will wonder, huh? what has it got to do with finding a partner? will explain in greater detail). 4. Is the Family of God going to support the family and whether the marriage will allow us to work even better with the Family of God. 5.Is the marriage going to allow us to have an even better fellowship with God or not. The list is not exhaustive, but I feel that these are the bigger points that everyone who are meant for marriage to think about. There are probably more reason that I currently in the state of brain deadness cannot think of or due to my limited brain capacity that can only generate minute calculations and reasons that is well, minute. Well, actually these points can be interlink... It is really hard to break them apart.

Why should I (and also those readers who are thinking about it) think about things (e.g. factors, or characteristics) of what you want in your future partner? Well, if I/we do not have an idea of what we are looking for in a partner, we will either 1. fall in love with every single lady/gentleman that walk past us (because you have no factors to consider-meaning that everyone fits) 2. fall in love with no one but yourself (because you have so many factors in your head that only a perfect person can fit in... which is no one but youself.... technically you yourself are not perfect. However, these type of people are usually narcissist) 3. Most of us will probably fall into this category of being in between 1 and 2 where we have some floating idea of who we want but aren't really sure about it. Therefore we keep on scratching our heads and wondering whether he/she is the one. Well, I guess you readers get the drift of why we should be clear of what we should look for in our future partner. (Remember to take into account that your partner can and should be growing spiritually, therefore give them some slack..... don't be a narcissist)

Lets go on to the next point. What are the stuff that I/ we should improve upon. Well, as Christian, our life should be improving and getting closer to Christ's character as the fruit of the Spirit starts to grow. So why should we still think about these. By the way, I think this point is very very important especially to male readers (boy, men, gentlemen, whatever)( I am not saying that this is not important for female readers, but then you see, I am a guy so I am clearer about why guys to take note. Not trying to be sexist). It is very important for us guys because we are suppose to lead a family when we get married. If we have some atrocious habits or some habits that is ungodly in us and the poor girls who get married to such guys because of whatever love reasons(love is not blind, but then it can colour your eyes... lets hope it doesn't colour it that you cannot see beyond the surface because your eyes are coloured opaque black) (therefore, girls, choose wisely. Get your spiritual girl leader to help you see past your coloured vision. By the way, guys too. Get someone to help you see beyond her looks. Sometimes i think we have such wonderful coloured eyes that we just see only the surface e.g. looks and certain characters. Well, don't laugh, we may sometimes have eyes that are coloured worse than opaque black). Well, it is obvious that we will never be perfect during this lifetime, it is not a reason not to change our atrocious characteristics. If we are not improving on those characteristics, it is very likely that you will find it hard to steer your family in a Godly way. Your kids will pick up your wonderfully atrocious habits and you will start wondering who in the world did they learn those habits. Your dear wife will also be lead astray. If she didn't and she kick you such that you wake up your idea, then praise God and be utterly utterly ashamed of yourself. Well, all these can also be found in the bible... don't have the verse with me... Go and enjoy reading the bible and finding the verses that support it :D

OK, NEXXXXXT.... What is my/ our goal in serving. HUH? WHAT? That is my own business right? NOTTTTTTT. Lets take for example. Guy A wants to be a missionary. Guy A likes Girl B. Girl B has other ideas about serving. She wants to serving in the church and hates getting unhygienic, working with people in the missionary field, leaving the comforts of home and family and friends etc. Well, of course there are exceptions where the wife is willing to submit and follow , learning what God wants her to learn even though it is hard for her. However, in many cases she may not be willing to submit or learn in those areas. If you are going to marry her knowing full well that her serving direction is utterly different from yours and is not willing to submit, then you are in for a very jolly good time. Let me just congratulate you because you will be learning many many painful things that you will probably not have learned if you marry someone who has similar goals. Of course such things happen, and it is part of God's plan that you learn from it ( though it is not for the faint-hearted. Guys, don't try to be a hero and think that well, its cool to have such a challenge. I think you will be heading for a good time with Mr Migraine). Instead of complementing each other, you will probably spending much time quarrelling and bickering instead of serving with all your heart and with all your soul. You will probably try to get your voices heard and God will then not be central to your lives. Then again there are exceptions, buttttt, why try to find someone who have a drastically different serving direction from you and not willing to submit and accomodate when there are others who probably can compliment you? (actually this point is open for debate... some will disagree... Well, this point is not a rule, but rather a point of consideration. If you found a partner with a drastic viewpoint of serving that differ from yours and yet you can still serve God with all your heart and soul and mind and glorify Him, by all means, get married)

Point 4 is important. VERY VERY IMPORTANT. If the Family of God don't support your marriage due to various reasons and you are unable to serve the Family of God better as a couple, then I/ us/we/ whatever has to rethink SERIOUSLY whether this marriage is feasible and whether God intends you to be married to the partner. Something is obviously wrong if the Family of God don't support your marriage and you are unable to serve the Family of God better. When I say Family of God it means the church as a whole, not individuals who may also have interest in your partner and express his utter disgust that you are getting married (that guy ought to rethink his attitude because if you two are meant to be, then he should be happy... k that is hard but then if he express utter disgust then obviously he has some attitude problem). The marriage is for the partners to complement each other in serving and I believe that if you complement each other in serving and serve even better than if you two are single then it is remotely unlikely that the Church will not support your marriage unless the pastor is the guy who is utterly disgusted because you took away his ideal partner and lead others astray (the pastor ought to rethink is position and the members of the church should question the ability of the pastor to sheperd the flock)...

Point 5 is very similar to point 4. If you are unable to have better fellowship with God when you are together, then you have to question whether that person is really God intended person. Lets take an analogy. You have 2 batteries. Each battery have the same power. Any person with some IQ who wants greater power will join two batteries together to get more power. However, if he/she gets lower power than what he/she gets with each battery then something must be wrong right? Any sane person will break apart those batteries because it will yield greater power than two together. Any insane person will probably just smash those two batteries up and just laugh at the mess that they made. (if i sound incoherent, pardon me). Well, God is infinitely more sane and more wonderful than any of us. Will he prefer that you have some "lower-powered" fellowship or the "higher-powered" ? Well, it might seem lower power at first but if the net effect in the end is higher powered then it is not within this scope of argument. We as Christians will also don't want our fellowship with God to be lousier than if we are single. (unless you are insane, by which i think you won't get married anyway. If you are sane and yet have contrary thinking, think again).

This conclude today's thought.... k may be not.... considering I have other modules besides this. (hmmm, wait, is this even a mod? may be they should make it a mod). Well, with my limited 21-22 years of experience, walk with God (lesser than 21-22 yrs...), and with my minute brain power and the what nots, this is what i can think of.... Probably have many more etc.... but lets leave it as that shall we? God Bless
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